Will you trust someone that break the trustworth that given?
If yes, will you continue to tell the truth?
Telling the truth might kill a person's good will.
Telling lie is even causing confusion to others. So, what shall we do?
Dilemma! If it is given a chance to accept as it, or deny what is being told? What will you choose?
It is a little bit go no where! We are struggling in between to trust or not to trust...
Thursday, December 25, 2008
Sunday, December 21, 2008
To prevent or cure
I guess everyone chooses to prevent rather than to cure.
I think I do agree to prevent as well.
But, if you only notice it is too late to prevent... then the only option that you have is to cure.
Prevention is a proactive action, cure is a reactive action. And there shall be minimal consequences for people that able to act carefully thus act swiftly to prevent the disaster that is coming. Only the person that drowning with happiness carelessly will be punish for the bad consequences...
It might be the difference of prevention and cure. Do you agree?
I think I do agree to prevent as well.
But, if you only notice it is too late to prevent... then the only option that you have is to cure.
Prevention is a proactive action, cure is a reactive action. And there shall be minimal consequences for people that able to act carefully thus act swiftly to prevent the disaster that is coming. Only the person that drowning with happiness carelessly will be punish for the bad consequences...
It might be the difference of prevention and cure. Do you agree?
The question of love ... by Visuddhacara
A human being is a lonely being. It seeks love and understanding. It seeks to find this love from another human being, in the arms of another human being. It yearns for somebody to be its companion in the journey of life. But is is not uncommon for a human being to find heartbreak instead, to have its dreams shattered, its heart broken. Have you had your heart broken before? Do you not feel like your world has collapsed then, that everything's over and life's not worth living anymore?
A human being does not understand that a happiness that depends on another is never secure or steady. It is shaky and vulnerable. For another might change and what would happen to its love then? And even when the love is sustained and grows, there's always the inevitable separations that must come about through death. And a human being might well ask: "Why must we find love only to die?"
But because of its great loneliness and deep yearning, a human being seeks love even if it knows it must suffer for it. It feels, rightly or wrongly, that "it is better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all." For a human being is a lonely creature. It must find love, even if it has to lose and to die. It must take all the happiness it can get in its short life on earth. It must make the most of it. Must it not?
We must understand a human being, its need to love and be loved, its craving for love. And two lovers too, we know, can find their joy and happiness, albeit not without the pain and agony that must accompany such love. They can support and comfort each other along the journey of life. They can travel together.
But can a human being transcend the need for such kind of love? Can a human being live alone and still love all beings? Can a human being love without any need for sensual gratification, without any expectations or rewards from any quarter, without a psychologically dependent kind of realtionship, the type of love that depends upon another behaving in a certain way towards one, and if that human being changes and stops behaving in that way, then the love turns sour, turns bad? Can a human being transcend the need for such a kind of dependent love? I think it would be most difficult for a human being, most difficult, in fact, for all human beings, to transcend the need for such kind of love.
But it is good for a human being to give some thought, to consider more deeply the question of love, so that understanding, it can love more understandingly, more knowingly.
A human being does not understand that a happiness that depends on another is never secure or steady. It is shaky and vulnerable. For another might change and what would happen to its love then? And even when the love is sustained and grows, there's always the inevitable separations that must come about through death. And a human being might well ask: "Why must we find love only to die?"
But because of its great loneliness and deep yearning, a human being seeks love even if it knows it must suffer for it. It feels, rightly or wrongly, that "it is better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all." For a human being is a lonely creature. It must find love, even if it has to lose and to die. It must take all the happiness it can get in its short life on earth. It must make the most of it. Must it not?
We must understand a human being, its need to love and be loved, its craving for love. And two lovers too, we know, can find their joy and happiness, albeit not without the pain and agony that must accompany such love. They can support and comfort each other along the journey of life. They can travel together.
But can a human being transcend the need for such kind of love? Can a human being live alone and still love all beings? Can a human being love without any need for sensual gratification, without any expectations or rewards from any quarter, without a psychologically dependent kind of realtionship, the type of love that depends upon another behaving in a certain way towards one, and if that human being changes and stops behaving in that way, then the love turns sour, turns bad? Can a human being transcend the need for such a kind of dependent love? I think it would be most difficult for a human being, most difficult, in fact, for all human beings, to transcend the need for such kind of love.
But it is good for a human being to give some thought, to consider more deeply the question of love, so that understanding, it can love more understandingly, more knowingly.
If only I am passionate to help...
To my stupidity, and ignorance, I have make a mistake to rush into helping others. I was thinking I shall take the charge to help, but I forget the pain that I incured when my stupidity didnt take care of other's heart feeling.
To my dearest friend, I appologise for being rude and ignorance on my words.
I am sorry. Please forgive me. I was wrong. I was too harsh. I was nasty. it was thougthless and unkind of me. How could I have been so heartless!
To my ignorance, I shall learn to be passionate enough to understand the pain that you have. I appologise for being harsh and rush to peel off the hurt that you have a layer to another layer. I forget to take care the painfulness when being peeling off, the scars that are still bleeding and crying. I am regret to the rush actions that I was hoping to cure the hurt that you have for years. I might have close the trustworthy door that given by you. I appologise for being not respecting the privacy. But I do hope that there is a chance to proof the passionate that I am improving to help you. If you still believe that I can help.
To remind myself to be gentle and kind, for our hearts which feel...
A heart feels
Oh! so much
so very deeply.
When you hold
a heart
in your hand
please be very gentle
O be very gentle!
Say not a hurting word.
Look not a spiteful look.
Draw it close to your breast.
Feel its warmth and tenderness
its fears and hopes.
Hug it, love it.
Treasure it, but o please
Don't ever hurt it!
A heart is very soft,
tender, and fragile,
easily broken.
When you hold
a heart
on your hand
Hold it with utmost care!
Love it with truest love!
Lest it trembles
and breaks!
......................poem by Visuddhacara
To my dearest friend, I appologise for being rude and ignorance on my words.
I am sorry. Please forgive me. I was wrong. I was too harsh. I was nasty. it was thougthless and unkind of me. How could I have been so heartless!
To my ignorance, I shall learn to be passionate enough to understand the pain that you have. I appologise for being harsh and rush to peel off the hurt that you have a layer to another layer. I forget to take care the painfulness when being peeling off, the scars that are still bleeding and crying. I am regret to the rush actions that I was hoping to cure the hurt that you have for years. I might have close the trustworthy door that given by you. I appologise for being not respecting the privacy. But I do hope that there is a chance to proof the passionate that I am improving to help you. If you still believe that I can help.
To remind myself to be gentle and kind, for our hearts which feel...
A heart feels
Oh! so much
so very deeply.
When you hold
a heart
in your hand
please be very gentle
O be very gentle!
Say not a hurting word.
Look not a spiteful look.
Draw it close to your breast.
Feel its warmth and tenderness
its fears and hopes.
Hug it, love it.
Treasure it, but o please
Don't ever hurt it!
A heart is very soft,
tender, and fragile,
easily broken.
When you hold
a heart
on your hand
Hold it with utmost care!
Love it with truest love!
Lest it trembles
and breaks!
......................poem by Visuddhacara
How to treat the Past?
Just read from a quotes - how to go thru the pass so that you can disconnect your habbit?
Here is the quotes:
It's better to cross the line and suffer the consequences than to just stare at that line for the rest of your life.
It is always not easy to quit smoking or drinking. But, if you do not start from today, everyday is a temptation to you. If you do not determine today, you will always drive by the addiction.
It is the same for you to disconnect from an impossible relationship. It might be a habbit for you to have the person day to day with you. Without the hope, you feel your life is missing something, and your heart is misplaced. But, if the person is someone that could let you go, you must learn how to walk on your own. Your happiness shall not count on others, you shall bear the responsibilities on your own.
It might be a habbit that you may be tempted to give up. But dont give up! When you've misplaced your hopeful life, dare to believe again it is possible. Every human deserves a better life if he/she learns to grow. God will only punish someone who is punishing him/herself.
Catch a ray of sunshine,and hold on tightly. Each baby falls when he/she learns to walk. If the parents does not determine to hold his/her hand, he/she wouldnt able to walk on his/her feet when he/she grows. The one who holds your hand... will never let you go.The one that let you go, will not turn twice...
Stand still and brave to hold your believe. You shall be able to have your newly life if you are able to let go bravely...
Every new day is another chance to change your life! Grab the day, and start from today. If you failed on the day, start again, and determine to hold your believe. It might be slow, but it will happen if you hold it and believe in it!
Again, you might be smiling with a sour and bitter heart. But it will not always raining days... you shall see the rainbow when the rain subsides... And, you will appreciate when the sunshine again... that's life.
***An article that might help to retract yourself from clinging the past. http://www.justkeepthechange.com/why-you-cant-be-friends-with-your-ex-after-the-break-up-and-the-no-contact-rule
Saturday, December 13, 2008
Christmas is coming... New Year is waiting...
It is December now, and it is christmas month. This is a festive session, where greetings and wishes all around us. December is the last month of the year. Soon, it will farewell the current year, and welcome the new coming year.
When you hear the jingle bell song singing around...we know that Santa Claus is on his way riding the rudolf deer to greet us merry christmas ...when jinggle bell song leaving far and faded from the distance... we know that new coming year is reaching...Spring cleaning is needed to welcome the new year!
Year end holidays is reaching... there is no reason to be a reason for christmas celebration and new year greetings... Got your christmas clothing? Have your church choir start preparing the christmas carols? Have you start decorating the christmas tree at home? Do you have your christmas socks prepare to receive the christmas present? Oh yeah...Have you done your christmas shopping? Everyone is waiting for warm wishes and a christmas gift...So do I..:-)
Merry Christmas & Happy New Year!!
May all your wishes come true...
May happiness always surrouding you...
When you hear the jingle bell song singing around...we know that Santa Claus is on his way riding the rudolf deer to greet us merry christmas ...when jinggle bell song leaving far and faded from the distance... we know that new coming year is reaching...Spring cleaning is needed to welcome the new year!
Year end holidays is reaching... there is no reason to be a reason for christmas celebration and new year greetings... Got your christmas clothing? Have your church choir start preparing the christmas carols? Have you start decorating the christmas tree at home? Do you have your christmas socks prepare to receive the christmas present? Oh yeah...Have you done your christmas shopping? Everyone is waiting for warm wishes and a christmas gift...So do I..:-)
Merry Christmas & Happy New Year!!
May all your wishes come true...
May happiness always surrouding you...
Tuesday, December 2, 2008
Up and Down
Shall i able to devote the emotion and feeling of mine, i will be having my sweet dream now.
It is 1:23am, and I am still awake with my favourite insomnia song. Why i called it insomnia song? It just touches my sweet and sour memories whenever it is being turn on.
Life is full of up and down. When you are at the top looking down, the feeling is high...full of hope. However, when times comes you will gaze to the sky in the middle of the night...something crawling into your heart...It is the feeling of uncertainty.
Uncertainty! It just haunted your heart and mind. It drives you no where, yet you can't leave it aside to move forward.
Shall tomorrow I see the light when I reach the end of the tunnel. Shall tomorrow when dawn pass thru, i will see the sunlight...Shall I see the gloria morning when I wake up ...Shall the bird singing cheerfully when sun rises...Shall the world peaceful without fear and war...
I guess... no matter how hard i pray... it is being arranged for everyone's destiny...
Again, stand still, pray the best... welcome it with smilling face ... although it might not be the happiest smile that you can contribute... but when you smile, there shall be voices whisper to your heart... life is still going on... chance is still in front... walk thru it... experience it... feel it... and you shall see the result when the day comes....
It is 1:23am, and I am still awake with my favourite insomnia song. Why i called it insomnia song? It just touches my sweet and sour memories whenever it is being turn on.
Life is full of up and down. When you are at the top looking down, the feeling is high...full of hope. However, when times comes you will gaze to the sky in the middle of the night...something crawling into your heart...It is the feeling of uncertainty.
Uncertainty! It just haunted your heart and mind. It drives you no where, yet you can't leave it aside to move forward.
Shall tomorrow I see the light when I reach the end of the tunnel. Shall tomorrow when dawn pass thru, i will see the sunlight...Shall I see the gloria morning when I wake up ...Shall the bird singing cheerfully when sun rises...Shall the world peaceful without fear and war...
I guess... no matter how hard i pray... it is being arranged for everyone's destiny...
Again, stand still, pray the best... welcome it with smilling face ... although it might not be the happiest smile that you can contribute... but when you smile, there shall be voices whisper to your heart... life is still going on... chance is still in front... walk thru it... experience it... feel it... and you shall see the result when the day comes....
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